The Power of Pain
I’m a huge fan of rap. From the days of Sugar Hill Gang to Whoodin to Slick Rik, Kirtis Blow, ll, Run, Marshall Mathers, Dr. Dre, Snoop, Nwa, Luke Skywalker…..you get the picture. I love the rhythm and rawness that comes along with a good ‘Lil Wayne song or a Pitbull club mix. Simply put, I’m all in!
What I’m most intrigued by though are the stories of many rappers who grew up with absolutely nothing in neighborhoods that would make most of us break into a million pieces. Drugs, gangs, poverty….not the typical success creation environment one would think.
So what’s the lesson here? Why is someone who grows up in a condition most would find unbearable, able to become so successful?
The answer: PAIN
In most of these scenarios, life was a complete bitch. Fear. Violence. Abuse. All situations that create immense plain in human beings. Therein lies the secret: pain creates greatness. And it is with this pain that most of these artists found their proverbial “way out”. They channeled their pain into a motivation most of us will never know. You don’t just wake up and become Snoop Dog.
- You dream.
- You practice.
- You sacrifice.
- You network.
- You talk to yourself.
- You find yourself.
- You take incredible risks.
- You burn the boats.
- You don’t turn back.
- You work your ass off.
- You ask for big money.
- You deliver.
- You study your craft.
- You produce…….then you sell 20,000,000 albums. FO shizzle.
So how can you use this?
Most of you reading this are not in pain. Far from it. You’re likely middle class, making above average money and already have your college degree. You must, therefore, make your own pain. You have to find your own painful motivation if you want to truly transform your results. This is one of the hardest things to do. But it’s certainly worth a conscious effort.
Here’s to hurting.
Josh Hamilton – A Refreshing Relapse
Texas Ranger outfielder Josh Hamilton recently made sports headlines when he relapsed from his drug and alcohol treatment program. Although celebrity relapse is not new, I thought the way he handled it was.
In an era when politicians and celebrities find it impossible to accept responsibility – instead, blaming others for all bad things that happen, Josh got up in front of the microphone the next day and said, “I messed up. I hurt people. I let down people who lean on me.”
You can argue all day about Josh’s baseball talent. He has been injured a lot and had some very average years. But in this case, he came through victorious.
Alcohol and drug recovery is a one-day-at-a-time game. I have a little experience in that game. Sometimes, when you feel vulnerable and weak, you have to put your game face on and be vigilant about relapse. Apparently, Josh wasn’t.
But rather than be quick to judge him for why it occurred. I am quick to judge how he handled it.
We sales people and business leaders can take a page from the Hamilton playbook when it comes to accepting responsibility, taking the blame and doing it in a ‘stand-up, head-on’ way. Wouldn’t it be refreshing if some of our politicians had the courage to stand up and say, “I screwed up by voting for that bill. I messed up. I don’t know what I was thinking. I’m sorry I hurt people inadvertently.”
Wouldn’t that be refreshing–especially if it came from the heart?
Or wouldn’t it be nice if a company leader had the bravery to stand up in front of the executive team and admit an error in judgement? Or, if a sales person who wasn’t achieving at the level he/she desired, to stand up and admit that it’s, “all on me” instead of blaming the pricing, the website, the customer demands, the weather?
Or, if a sales manager would go into the President’s office and accept responsibility for weak sales performance instead of blaming his sales team? Or, if a customer service person would admit that they screwed up the shipping instructions?
As we go about our day in our business lives, check out when we take accountability and when we shirk it. It probably would surprise us. The great paradox is that we think it’s a strategy of strength to never admit errors. But it’s quite the opposite.
Four New Year’s Lessons For Sales Professionals
It’s always hard to narrow advice down to 3-4 things, but Bryan and Bill did that in this episode. The gist of it is that they see many sales professionals struggle with parts of the sales cycle. And their advice today will help you cope with those things you’d like to improve.
These four lessons are also good for sales managers as they/you continue to work on improving the state of your sales force.
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What Every Salesperson Can Learn from John Wooden
Our guest this week is Pat Williams, VP Orlando Magic. Pat shares with you some of the lessons he learned while writing his latest book called Coach Wooden: 7 Principles That Shaped His Life and Will Change Yours.
Pat has written 70 books on leadership, sales, success and philosophy, and it’s our opinion that his most recent one on John Wooden who coached the UCLA basketball team in the 50s, 60s and 70s is his best.
Coach Wooden’s Seven Principles for Life
- Be true to yourself
- Help others
- Make friendship a fine art
- Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible
- Make each day your masterpiece
- Build a shelter against a rainy day by the life you live
- Give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day
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If One More Out-of-Work Sales Person Calls Me…
OK…so the headline might be a little harsh (and maybe I’m a bit grumpy tonight). But I must tell you — that while I’m happy to help out-of-work sales people network, I’m frustrated with their general lack of creativity when it comes to job hunting.
Let me see if I understand this…you fancy yourself as a great sales person…and you’re looking for a job…and you network with me…and you expect ME to hand over my database and go out of my way to call my contacts to ‘see if they’re hiring’ — and all you can do is hand me a resume?
That’s the extent of your salesmanship?
You Can Do Better Than That
As I’ve said before in this blog, the sales person of the future MUST be a good marketer–not just a good closer. And the best way to demonstrate your marketing prowess is in how you position yourself when hunting for a job. Yet most are clueless.
My Great Idea…Met With Luke Warmness
So, I got called the other day by a friend of a friend who was “networking.” I told her to go to LinkedIn (she was all over LinkedIn) and put up a Google app that allows you to create a PowerPoint presentation to exhibit your know-how.






